When I think back over I can't believe everything my wife and I have been through, the last 4 years. You learn so much about yourself and each other when you have gone through attempted pregnancies, miscarriages, and failed fetility treatments.
I have found a new appreciation for my friends that had or are going through fertility treatments. I found out that I can be truely happy and jealous at the same time. I am happy for all my friends and family that are able to have children the "traditional way" (whatever that is) and yet somewhat jealous that it seemed so easy for them. I learned how to just listen to what my wife had to say, and hopefully when I was supposed to answer or when just being quiet was what she needed. I learned that anger is ok, in fact needed, at least for our personalities. We have been angy at everything in the last 4 years; ourselves, the medications, the doctors, even God. Anger helped us get past everything and see what the "Plan" for us was. Most importantly we learned PATIENCE. Wait and see if she is pregnant, wait and take more medication, wait and see if the medication is working, wait to have sex, wait to see if she is pregnant again, Wait to get more money to only wait and try again, but wait before you continue the cycle. Wait, Wait, Wait.
The adoption process can be long and anxiety filled, just ask anyone who has been through it, but because we have gone through our "fertility journey" we are better prepared for it.
Jim
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